yeah well ALL I can say to system85 is looking above at his HUGE tantrum 'flame' post, here's some advice -
ALWAYS show firmness of beleif in your project -
with some teasing & criticism you cracked and went beserk and spewed out tons of defensive shit - dont show weakness cos you always will get criticism from companies & listeners & media etc etc and if you rise to it, there is the end of any dialog betwen you and this company or office or magazine or radio station etc etc & in fact this will make them try to destroy you deliberately at any chance they have. But don't worry, we all are human and we all slip from time to time and 'rise to the bait' like a fish
If you are cool it is like chatting about a film in the pub with people - mebbe they say they dont like the film you like, but you can with the right moves influence someone to listen again & mebbe go and see the film and agree it is ok, you can influence them to change their mind or too look again..... but if you crack and spew out like that, then they will laugh and show you the door and after it closes they say to each other: "he was some loser"
If you have a showdown with a fighter and he see's you screaming and frothing at the mouth and shouting "I will kill you.. I will rip off your fucking head!!" etc etc... it is NOT like WWF in real life, no... he just looks at you going beserk and says to himself: "Look at this guy going crazy, this guy is shit scared, he is terrified, he is beaten already"
you gotta be firmer than that mate - beleive or not, but make your mind up if you BELEIVE or not and if you DO, then DO NOT show any sign you do NOT beleive which you are showing because you show SO EASILY TO SEE that someones opinion, (WHO YOU DO NOT EVEN KNOW).. someone not liking your work is effecting you DEEPLY... if you beleived, it would not effect you at all... you would laugh and say - "fair enuff"
what do you think you are fucking GOD and EVERYONE MUST like your music in the whole world??... they will not, in fact the majority will not.
That's how it is in companies... they will say your stuff is shite mebbe or say at first. "we dont like this or we dont want to sign this" etc, but you ask: "what can I do to make it better"?... you play this idiot like a violin because then he can give him an opportunity to talk about himself... he can tell you what HE thinks it needs, and then you are discussing your project, you have a dialog and by asking him to point out which things he does not like or BETTER, what he thinks is GOOD of it and to keep etc, he must listen to the track again to show you - so he must listen again and again... and then after some discussion you have a dialog, he remembers your name & face & you can call him up and go back again with a remix or a new project -
BUT if you scream and rant at him, he says: "fuck off and dont come back"..... and that is that, you NEVER will get in that door again...
mebbe worth a thought - what is a manager after all?... he is a guy who beleives he can sell you and make money out of your product and doesn't take 'no' for an answer.... if you can't handle criticism, get a manager and stay OUT of managing yourself and leave it to a professional - let a manager promote you instead.
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